- Who gives? Everyone, even the poorest person who depends on tzedakah is required to give a ½ schekel, so that he too is a contributor.
- How much should we give? The richest can give up to 20% of their income, but no more. More would get that person too much honor and power for the community’s good. Less is ok. The normal amount is 10%.
- How do we choose among a wide range of needs? Anyone who asks for food should receive it at once. Hunger is a powerful emergency. Strangers with less urgent needs should be queried. The community is responsible to give what they need based upon the results of the perceived need. Those known to the community should not have to wait for tzedakah.
- Giving is extended in a series of concentric circles. Ones own needs come first. The next priority goes to parents. Children come next, then relatives, immediate neighbors, then the needs of the town in which one lives. After that a person needs to be concerned with their country and finally the world.
- Jews & Non-Jews For the sake of peace, give to both. The highest communal good is a joy to help all beings.
- Moses Maimonides – 12th century scholar and author of the Mishnah Torah illiterated 8 steps of tzedakah. All 8 steps are built upon restoring a person’s dignity, privacy and anonymity of the giver and the receiver.
- We can raise a person’s dignity in their own eyes as well as in the eyes of the prosperous by involving them in the process and in the work. The highest form of tzedakah is enabling every person to be economically self-sufficient.
- There is a difference between acts of loving kindness and tzedakah. One is direct service and the other is capacity building which enables people to stand on their own independent of a need for tzedakah.
Dear Women of Rodef Sholom,
As I prepare for my sabbatical leave it is with a twinge of sadness that I face being away from Congregation Rodef Sholom for an extended period of time. Yet there is much joy and wonder at getting up each day without the responsibilities of Cantor.
So many questions cross my mind:
- How will all my b’nei mitzvah students manage without my guidance and support?
- Who will chant the prayers at services?
- How will the Shabbat musicians find the music they need?
- Who among us in need of healing?
But the biggest questions I have are:
- Who am I when my job isn’t defining me?
- Will I be happy when I’m taking a break from doing what I love?
It is those questions that I most want to answer, and work through because discovering that will guide me when I return to be an even better human being, father, husband, and Cantor.
Thank you all for your patience and love and support as I take this time away from all my duties.
May we all go from strength to strength.
~Cantor David Margules
Here we are. We have a choice. We can go out, have fun buying jewelry and accessories for amazing bargain prices to raise much needed funds for our special school across the street, Venetia Valley. Or, we can stay home, and do what? Laundry? Paperwork? Return phone calls?
Join us at the JCC November 17, 7-9pm. We will schmooze, eat, drink and get very excited about fabulous earrings that cost so little and yet have so much BLING! I’m definitely going out and I hope to see all of you at the Fundraiser. We owe it to ourselves to have a blast! And in case you haven’t heard, WRS won the WRJ Or Ami Award for this community service project and will be recognized this month at the Women of Reform Judaism Assembly.
Then, in May 2016, using your contributions of jewelry, we will be setting up our third annual Boutique at the Parent Center at Venetia Valley School. This allows every first grader to choose a beautiful Mother’s Day gift! So come out and have fun while doing good for our community.
~Susan Goldwasser, WRS President
Like most Jewish holidays, Hanukkah is about family and food! Beginning with food….
I love Hanukkah, usually squeezed in between Thanksgiving and Santa Claus, followed by New Year’s whoop-dee-doo, the promise of lots of rain and a few extra pounds to work off at the JCC. Think sufganiyot, latkes, kugel, cake, chocolate. I’ve pulled together a few ideas to make your culinary holiday special….beginning with this video that turns sufganiyot into mere child’s play. Before you begin, visit The Gift Shop for your star shaped cake pans, dreidel shaped ice cube molds, and of course lots of fair trade gelt to get this holiday rolling! Now go get your kids, or your grand-kids, and get cooking!
One of my family’s favorite Hanukkah traditions is to attend the lighting of the Mama Menorah in San Francisco’s Union Square. Watch here for a schedule of this year’s candle lightings as well as when SF Chabad will plan their yearly party with music, dancing and crafts for the children. For your celebrations at home, The Gift Shop will carry over 70 different styles of menorahs as well as beautiful candles direct from Safed, Israel.
This Hanukkah, we’ve brought you Jewish gifts not found anywhere else in Marin County…I’ve checked and no, Target, Bed Bath & Beyond, even Macy’s don’t carry most of the selection that The Gift Shop offers! Tops on my list is a series of Jewish adult, meditative coloring books and I admit when first introduced to this item, I reverted back to my childhood and know you will, too. Imagine: stormy day, hot cup of coffee, sharpened colored pencils, soft music and your coloring book. We’re also carrying the most fun your feet have had since you were a kid: adult women’s Hanukkah socks. Cute, no?
The shop will be ready on Sunday, November 8th. We’re clearing the shelves and stuffing everything you need for Hanukkah into our little shop: wrapping paper, ribbons, gift tags, menorahs, candles, gelt, dreidels, plushy Hanukkah bear, miniature snow globes and more. Hanukkah’s only five weeks away and The Gift Shop will sell out. I’m happy to reorder but, well honestly, you will have to wait and pray there’s no behemoth snow storm between here and wherever the goodies are shipped from.
One last thought to share with you – we will not be carrying Hanukkah tree toppers nor Hanukkah fire place stockings. And this is based on the wisdom gleaned from one very wise rabbi.
A menorah should be honored for what it is and a Christmas tree likewise. If you’re celebrating Hanukkah and Christmas in your home, let each symbol be itself – just like each of us. ~Rabbi Stacy
The Gift Shop manager
Jewelry, Purse and Scarf Benefit Sale
The Women of Rodef Sholom will be hosting a Jewelry, Purse and Scarf sale (all gently used) to raise funds for the Venetia Valley School in San Rafael. It’s a great place to get some fabulous deals for the upcoming holidays and feel good knowing the proceeds will help students here in Marin County.
The Sale will take place on Tuesday, November 17th, from 7:00pm to 9:00pm at the Jewish Community Center in the Hoytt Theater, 170 N. San Pedro Road, San Rafael. We look forward to seeing you there.
Join the sisters of WRS and the women of the Venetia Valley Family Center from 9am-noon in the Rodef Sholom kitchen. We’ll prepare one Latino dish and one Jewish dish just in time for Thanksgiving.
Please join us for our winter Membership Social on Monday night December 7, 2015 in the JCC Gallery. Let’s get together and chat. A light nosh will be available.
Join the women of WRS and CRS as well as Rabbi Stacy on Friday, December 4th. Meet at Blackie’s Pasture in Tiburon at 8:30 for a spectacular walk along the water. The path is flat, dogs on leashes are welcome. It’s a wonderful opportunity to communicate with nature while enjoying our community of women.
Women of Rodef Sholom Opening Tea
One hundred women attended the opening event and participated in great singing, schmoozing, noshing and connecting. What a wonderful day it was!
Dear Women of Rodef Sholom,
Shabbat is coming in and, as I sit writing this last communication before evening falls I feel full of gratitude and joy. The turn-around between Yom Kippur and Sukkot has always felt crazy to me and most years I’ve wondered: “Couldn’t Sukkot just be a few days later!” But this year, my first year building a real sukkah in my own backyard, I recognized the spiritual aliveness of this rushed turnaround. From the deep personal introspection of Yom Kippur to the joy of eating a meal with our community in the Sukkah-the contrast is palpable. And that is the whole point-for us to experience the full range of human emotion in the short span of these holidays. And so we build our Sukkot, no matter how tired we may still be from fasting. And how sweet it is!
It’s nearly impossible to have a Sukkah in New York City when you’re living there as a student. During my years in cantorial and rabbinical school living in Brooklyn I celebrated sukkot with my synagogue and fulfilled the mitzvah of eating meals in a sukkah on my graduate school’s rooftop where we would build a communal sukkah each year. It was very rare for any one of my friends to have a sukkah of their own because space was so limited. This year, it feels like an incredible privilege to be able to host people in my own sukkah that members of Rodef Sholom helped to build. It’s a new year, and this festival of joy and gratitude is a beautiful way for our tradition to celebrate.
Just like in secular time, the new year in Jewish time is a wonderful opportunity to take on a new practice. One practice that I will be exploring this year is a return to jogging/walking as a regular morning gratitude practice after years away. The purpose of my return to jogging is not about fitness or pushing myself in any competitive way. Rather, it is entirely about getting up in the morning, greeting the day with gratitude, being outside, and feeling appreciation for movement and for the body that keeps me going each day. If you are interested in joining me in this new practice please e-mail me at email@example.com. Together we’ll form a supportive group of joggers/walkers and choose a 5K we would like to participate in together!
Wishing you a Happy New Year and Chag Sukkot Sameach!
This is the time of year that we look ahead, wondering what 5776 will bring. We are busily planning meetings, writing school obligations into the calendar, trying to balance exercise, coffee, errands, volunteer activities, taking care of homes, relationships, children. And for those who have jobs outside the home, we factor that in along with everything else. It is a dizzy, hectic vortex. As women, multitasking seems to be our constant companion.
Squeezing in one more thing, I recklessly registered for an entire weekend away from home and adult responsibility. In between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur I was fortunate enough to attend a retreat at Camp Newman for women over 45 years old, called The Next Tent. Over 80 women from the Bay Area, southern California and even outside of California gathered together. We were excited but also a little apprehensive, as none of us knew what to expect. It turned out to be an incredible experience, filled with small group sessions exploring our life journeys, hiking, swimming, singing, dance partying, doing yoga, Torah Study, eating s’mores around the campfire, and making new friends. Doesn’t this sound like fun? No wonder kids love camp.
At 7:30am on Sunday morning some of us met for a hike. First, we were asked to pick a word from a bag (called angel cards) and privately reflect upon it. After hearing a gorgeous Mary Oliver poem about nature, we hiked up a steep hill in silence. Ordinarily being silent would be extremely hard but it was a very steep hill. When we got to the top, we were treated to a magnificent view of distant ridges, farms, and rolling hills. Each woman then had a chance to share her word. Mine was Love. At first when I had read my word, I wondered what I would say. While schlepping up that hill, it became so clear.
How about we stop and feel the love that is in our lives right now? What might it feel like to stop planning and scheduling for a moment, and just completely allow ourselves to take it in. Not past loves gone imperfect, not hopes for future love, not seeking to enhance current love, but just appreciating the love that is with us at this exact moment.
I returned home holding onto that thought. I hope that no matter how busy life can be, we can remember to feel the love from family and friends, pets (OK, I don’t have any but you may), spouses, significant others, your fellow congregants, and of course, your sisters at Rodef Sholom.
~Susan Goldwasser, WRS President
The WRS Book Club meets monthly the third Wednesday of each month from 7:15-8:15 in the JCC Library.
The Ocean at the End of the Lane, by Neil Gaiman
All the Light We Cannot See, by Anthony Doerr
I am Forbidden, by Anouk Markovitz
Fault Lines, by Nancy Huston
WRS Annual Pool Party, August 9
The pool party was a smashing success. About 30 women gathered at our president’s (Susan Goldwasser) house for an afternoon of delicious food and spirited conversations. New friendships were forged and long standing ones reinforced. We are all looking forward to our next event, the paid up membership tea. The tea is free to members in good standing. And for those of you who haven’t paid your membership at that date, please come and you can pay at the door. It will be an afternoon to remember!
As summer winds down we sense a transition is upon us. Even if you are not going back to school the “getting ready to go back to school” excitement/trepidation is in the air. Inevitably we wonder about 5776 and what this year will be like for us. I’m thinking about how this year can offer new possibilities, friendships and adventures.
How do we capture that new semester thrill if we are many years away(OK decades) from being a student? Just because I’m not getting a new backpack or notebooks doesn’t mean I don’t want to learn, or feel like this semester is a fresh start.
How about making new friends and discovering the possibilities for making a difference in the world right here with the Women of Rodef Sholom? Please join us September 27 at 3pm for our opening event. It will be lots of fun, educational, and there will be delicious treats. Come on your own or bring a friend. We invite you to make this year a little different by making deeper connections with old as well as new friends.
And if you haven’t joined the back to school rush at Target the pre-sharpened pencils are divine. Go next week, it’s never too late.
~Susan Goldwasser, WRS President
We find ourselves in the month of Elul, the month leading up to our High Holy Days. This month is meant to be a time of reflection, a time of preparation, and a time of Teshuvah, of repentance. What do you do during this month to help yourself prepare for the High Holy Days? Each morning during this month we are supposed to hear the sound of the Shofar, to awaken our souls, to make us aware, perhaps even to frighten us a little bit about the approaching Day of Atonement. Our source for the blowing of the shofar comes from a verse in Leviticus 23 that says: “God spoke to Moses saying: Speak to the Israelite people thus: In the seventh month, on the first day of the month, you shall observe complete rest, a sacred occasion commemorated with loud blasts.” This celebration of Rosh Hashanah is observed on the first two days of the Hebrew month of Tishrei, and begins on the evening of Sunday, September 13th. On that day, we will gather together, we will sing and we will pray, we will atone for our sins, we will hear the familiar melodies that hearken us back to our childhood and beyond, and we will hear the blasts of the shofar. What feelings does the blast of the shofar stir up for you? Are those feelings different year after year?
Maimonides taught the following: “Although the sounding of the shofar on the New Year is a decree of the written law, still it has a deep meaning, as if saying, ‘Awake, awake, o sleeper, from your sleep; o slumberers, arouse yourselves from your slumbers; examine your deeds, return in repentance, remember your Creator.'”
I encourage you to find a way to listen to the sound of the shofar every day during the month of Elul. If you can’t hear it in person click this link to listen to a recording. The link works everyday except on Shabbat. May it awaken your soul to examine your deeds, to return in repentance, and to arrive at Rosh Hashanah ready to begin 5776 anew. May this new year be filled with joy, with light, and with love for you and yours.
Shanah tovah u’metukah!